A Welcoming Church
July 4th, 2008Whoever welcomes me welcomes the one who sent me.
- Matthew 10:40
There may be no higher good to which we can aspire as a church family than to be a “welcoming” community. Whether we frame that in terms of “radical hospitality,” “boundless friendliness” or as Saint Benedict commanded: meeting all “as Christ,” welcoming all comers with grace and kindness is part of our calling as followers of Jesus. It’s not that simply being kind to people who visit our church is the greatest Christian ministry. Sharing the story of Jesus, caring for “the least,” and joining in the praise and worship of God in common prayer all trump being “welcoming” as vital Christian ministries. But all those things have happened naturally, continually and wonderfully here for over one hundred and fifty years. Say what you will about the hide-bound and cumbersome structure of the institutional church…we are built to get certain things done. And we will say the prayers and break the bread and serve the poor until Christ comes again!
Being “welcoming” is important because that’s how these most vital ministries of our church are given a chance to enliven and enrich the experience of those who are not already a part of this fun and faithful family. It is a given that we are doing God’s work in this place. Being “welcoming” is the chief way we can insure that work spreads … by expanding the “boundaries” of this community…working together to let new folks in, and celebrating the experiences, talents and aspirations of every soul who walks through our doors.
It is said that when people visit a church they have three goals. They want to sneak in without being noticed. They want to get through the service without embarrassing themselves. And they want to get out the door without being mugged.
These are funny but real concerns for folks who screw up the courage to check out a new church. They are worries that speak to the deep and real hopes people bring to a church visit.
“Sneaking in” has to do with a healthy desire on the part of visitors to experience the true nature of a church community. People know instinctively that if they are tagged as a “visitor,” they are likely to be treated differently than everybody else. Suddenly it’s all good manners and charm…and the church visitor is left wondering: what are these people like when they are not trying to impress me? How might I experience the presence of God in this place if I hadn’t been tagged as “special?”
We had a family dinner in the city a couple of years ago when some of my siblings were in town. I’ll never forget this waiter, who was all winning and attentive as he served our table. But when some neighboring diners paid their bill and left and he opened the little leather book and looked at his tip, he ran back to the kitchen and exploded in fury: Fifteen percent! Roar roar roar!
And then after a minute or so he was back at our table-side all sweetness and light.
People want to be under the radar when they visit this community because they want to know what were really like…not just when we’re all gussied up to impress company, but in our everyday relationships as church people.
The desire to “get through the service without being embarrassed” speaks to the genuine respect and hope that people bring to a church visit.
Sure – as human beings we desire to “fit in” and “belong.” Partly getting through the service without being embarrassed is about that. All of us desire the connection and comfort that comes with fitting in…and most people don’t like to look foolish. Many of you have said the Lord’s Prayer in the “wrong” way at a Roman Catholic Church or a Presbyterian Church. That’s pretty embarrassing! But the larger thing operating here is the tacit acknowledgment that visitors hope – even expect – to encounter God when they make their way through the doors of a new church.
The desire to “play by the rules” of this community…to “do it right” and not be embarrassed comes principally from the hope folks have that if they do what we do, they too can meet the divine in this place of worship. Truly - even bigger than our desire not to be embarrassed is our longing to be with God.
The hope guests have that they will be able to “pass through the door at the end of our service without getting mugged” likewise speaks to a very real and important desire that’s brought to a church visit. Human beings desperately desire to be loved. This is a fundamental need which every single one of us has, and it is one of the chief needs that are met in a healthy Christian community. Sure, a church affiliation should challenge us too - and ask us to grow - but more than that, an encounter with the church – whether it’s a one-time drop in on a Sunday morning or a life long love affair – should always include a big warm embrace of affirmation and unconditional love.
We hope – we truly endeavor – to give that gift in our church worship:
- This is why we have “greeters” at the door: to welcome people with a smile and make them feel like this is home.
- This is what the exchange of the peace is about: a sharing through touch and spoken word of the “peace” that is ours to have and share because we know we are beloved of God in Christ.
- This is why we share communion at every Sunday morning in this place: as a reminder – a making real – of the truth that God loves us enough to battle death itself for our sake.
On most days – for those who come expecting the best of this community – some real sign of Christ’s presence and love for us will be given. On most days there really will be some token, moment or experience of the unreserved and powerful affection the Lord has for every human being.
But guess what? That wonderful experience can be undone at the church door when we demand – even with the very best of intentions – some work or change on the part of a guest. “You need come to our coffee hour” we chirp. “You’d love our adult Bible study,” we chime. “You should be in our choir,” we crow. And of course we mean well. If you come to coffee hour you can meet nice people…if you come to our Bible study you’ll discover ways to hear “the word of the Lord” that are new and life-giving…if you sing in our choir, you’ll get to have cocktails at Gs every Thursday night! It’s all good!
But what newcomers fear – and what they hear – is this: you need to change just a little bit if you’re really going to belong here. What they hear is this: that shimmer of Christ’s embrace you felt there for a second this morning – well that’s contingent. If you want to really be part of this place – if you want to feel that all the time – you’re going to have to do some work, because God doesn’t love you like you are…God can only love you if you change. And that’s just not true…and we need to be careful not to accidentally send that message to folks.
Today is the first day of our church summer of course, and we’ll mix it up a little with some new, seasonal additions to our worship and new service times and a fun picnic later on this morning to welcome this rich time of year. Please remember that during these long, hot summer days we’re likely to see more new faces around here. People do a lot of church visiting in the summertime, it’s an easy season to explore and try new things.
Know that you are already a remarkably kind and welcoming community. I really mean that. When I describe Christ Church to people who don’t know us I inevitably say that we’re a community where Jesus is especially present in the relationships between our members…in the very deep commitment that you all have to loving each other. That is simply not true of every church community…not in the way you make it true in this place. We have a very special gift to give.
So let me encourage you to share that special grace of yours with intention and purpose, being truly and radically welcoming in this place. Remember and serve the needs of the many strangers who come to this place with the earnest hope to see who we really are…to encounter the living God…and to experience the love that God offers.
We will make God smile with such effort! We will give a tremendous gift to those who come to check us out. And we will have our lives enriched too, as our lives and community are enriched by the talents, energy and experience of every new person who walks through our doors…
Bearing the gift of the presence of Jesus himself.
Keep Running, Keep Praying, Godspeed -
JSB +


